Sunday, April 18, 2010

Ode To Steve

Ode To Steve

April 19, 2010

He lives exemplary life - celebrating 70th this day.
Venerable Steve ____________ is an amazing titan.
Role models loving integrity for universal kith/kin/environment.
Superb father, hard working, caring/sharing Pilgrim’s Way.

What is most impressive is his interaction with great grandchildren.
Enthusiasm, time, energy is the loving spirit they will treasure ever after.
Steve is generous to family, neighbor/all; oftentimes anonymous behind the scene.
Volunteers help to family – devotes serious aide/time to condo sisters/brethren.

Unitarian Universalist and Darwin are foundation belief corps.
Charlie Rose/Bill Moyer are role models portraying logic and grace.
Cross Country Skiing, Hiking, Family Events lead his fun list.
Top all sweets with ice cream makes this humble man soar.

He is extremely intelligent – well read on current events.
Served his country proudly in the United States Marines.
Honors the mother of his daughter and adopted son.
Knowing him is like Christmas cheer and presents.

ARC Resources Lakewood, et al March 2010

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Solo Senior Resource 2010: Lakewood, Cerritos, Hawaiian Gardens, Long Beach
When I moved to this area in 2007, I was struck immediately with DASH services, M thru F day free transportation, (562) 920-9702. But you have to make reservations one week in advance. ACCESS for disabled seniors is also available (877) 628-2232 Orange County, (877) 517-6884 Los Angeles.
There is a Seniors Club in every city – my favorite is Hawaiian Gardens – they are the best in hospitality (Latin culture dominant) – making peers feel welcome. http://hgcity.org/seniors.php
When you are alone, interacting with peers socially is just as vital for health as anything else. The more active you are, the healthier you are. Peer support is crucial: music, fun, activity a must.
ABC Adult school offered at Fredde campus free computer class – it was so, so popular. Alas, now they are charging…but some classes for Hawaiian Garden residents I believe are still complimentary. http://www.abcadultschool.edu/index.html (562) 926-6734
One of my favorites is book clubs… http://www.colapublib.org Best deal in town: you can order books on line, even latest release DVD’s (same as Blockbuster, but you don’t pay) and my favorite: book clubs –contact each library to see what’s available. On line reference librarians are phenomenal.
One problem area…technically when something is offered and funded by federal and/or state-city tax funds, it is supposed to be `free will donation’ and/or complimentary based on income. Yet, at Senior Centers where lunch is provided – the word donation is used; but `expected’ charge is more suited for description – in other words, seniors are charged. Many Seniors are on SSI with very limited Social Security – even postage is precious for these peers.
Every city has parks & recreation catalog delivered to home…call your city if you don’t receive it:
City of Lakewood: http://www.lakewoodcity.org/
City of Hawaiian Gardens: http://hgcity.org/
City of Cerritos: http://www.cerritos.us/
City of Long Beach: http://www.longbeach.gov/
Bowling is a great social fun activity 2500 E. Carson Street, Lakewood info@cal.bowl.com http://www.cal-bowl.com/ - Senior Leagues are daily – every season.
Long Beach Bridge Center is very popular – and peer Bridge Playing is at many park centers. http://www.longbeachbridge.com/
Widows/Widowers Support Groups: http://drewstewpsych.com/Documents/Grief%20Support%20Groups-English.htm

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Ode to Son/Daughter

Ode to son/daughter

In my early adolescent years I heard kith & kin say what I knew…I should have a dozen kids.
This belief was juxtaposed with the desire to run an orphanage ala Boys Town.
But my first marriage was incongruent. Prayers were constant for years…please no children yet. Five years later – desperate and lonely, I gave in…please God: send me a child. I became pregnant immediately with `miracle son’. I was fulfilled with motherhood; but discontented still with union. I foolishly left family to put distance between mate and me and filed for divorce. It was one of the worse decisions of my life. But life is a mystery and as the years progress, you realize it more and more.
Two years later I married again right before the birth of my daughter; new husband adopted son. There was a brief period of phenomenal joy and content for I was able with the start of a day care business to stay at home – enjoy the wonderment of full time parenthood.
My children had several `wonder years’ with happy parents – especially a father who introduced them to nature’s splendor…camping, skiing, hiking, Y-Indian Guides, Cub/Boy Scouts, Mini/Girl Scouts – sports were joyous times.
Alas my desire for more children was exterminated literally with undesired tubligation. My maternal need supplemented with establishing `surrogate parenting’ role – Children’s Schoolhouse. For two decades, countless infants, children loved by me.
Every once in awhile, I meet `one of mine’… tell him or her…you were in a holding pattern in the `ether world’ until you found a way to connect – blessed parents assumed my relapsed role.
I inevitably tell them about the `two miracles that made it’. I share unparalleled joy.
I tell them how blessed I am; how life would not have been Technicolor joy without them.
How does a mother express loving gratitude and pride over a son and daughter for their magnificent grace and unconditional love?
My first waking thought is to `thank God for life and them’. My first action of the day is to
`bend a knee’ in gratitude/homage.

They were always loved and appreciated. But humble gratitude exponentially accelerates daily – the result of the aftermath of evil attack on my life that left me `homeless and helpless’. The medical prognosis was potential nursing home. They didn’t accept that. I was immediately guided to hospital rehabilitation, then to `home’. They knew evil antithesis is love. Love poured on…continues to this day.

The mystery of it all is I truly don’t deserve it! Was I a good parent? In my `ego tripping’ days, I would grade myself a seven. In retrospect, confess: borderline five. Have they held resentments for ignorant mistakes, less than stellar parenting skills? No! Instead I see them with relationships and children far, far better at it than I ever was. It astounds me!
I was going to be super mom – have it all – career, social life, advanced education, family. I did but in the process, it was my children who got the `short end’ of the stick. The worst of it all is that it was the era of `feminist liberation juxtaposed with sexual revolution’. My persona felt liberated like an Asian woman getting feet unbound. Great for me, but without maturity crossed over to foolish irresponsibility with my children who never should have been exposed to such liberal unproven new age thinking. I never realized how much I must have hurt them until they were mature adults. What was one of the biggest mistakes? Yelling! I inherited the `parenting drill sergeant style’ – worked for order/discipline but in hindsight, I should have `rose above’ and matured to a `better calm and wise way’ to achieve peace/harmony/obedience.
There is no way you can make amends for ignorance, stupidity, carelessness. What gets even more poignant is the fact that `parental mishaps’ still occur without condemnation or admonishment.
Here’s the bonus. When they were born, my joy was juxtaposed with fervent prayer…
`Dear God – please guide them to be HOLY/GOOD!’ What did HOLY/good mean to me? Loving, respectful, decent, generous, kind, tender, androgynous, independent, autonomous, individuated, reasonable, classy, good natured, personable, friendly, fun, honest, sincere, warm, appreciative, sensitive, empathetic, and just, caring, sharing. I prayed for love of family, reading, divine nature.
And what is the blessing? Son and Daughter are all that and more!
What do I love experiencing the most? When there is a large family gathering…I see them greet loved ones individually with warmth, style, grace. In fact, those are the exact words my brother once expressed. I experience them going the extra mile in reaching out for `peace’ when there is discord – frankly awing me with their spiritual wisdom. Needless to say, when they go out of their way to defer to me with honorary respect, I soar.
I love their `equitable’ relations with one/all without any semblance of prejudicial selectiveness. I love their appreciation of nature and their interaction with environment. I love their closeness and familial bond. I love their love of sports and camaraderie with playing cards and games. I love their intelligence – their thinking style. I love how I see them go out of their way to help others – most of the time anonymously. I love how personal needs will often go on back burner as they reach out to `make someone happy’. I love their dedication to work – giving 150%+. I love their love of animals. I love their love of children with undivided attention. I love their love and devotion to their father. I love their devotion to country. I love their volunteer spirit. I love their fearlessness. I love their independence. I love their peer interaction and class act friendships. I love their ethics, morals, and values. I love their adventuresome spirit in learning. I love their respect to venerable. I love their class act giving. I love their lifestyles. I love their work ethic. I love their `surrogate’ parenting skills. I LOVE THEM!!! MJRRG

ARC Homeless Hints

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Hints for Someone Forced To Live On The Streets
ARC sponsored homeless shelters for over a decade. Alas, unable to do so directly now. But following are some of the `hints’ that were shared by those sanctuary was provided for.
Each city is supposed to have a 211 emergency call resource center. http://www.infoline-la.org/
If fortunate enough to have a car, park and sleep around hospitals that have 24 hour security.
Catholic Churches have mass daily…6:00 a.m. mass is the best time to use rest room to clean up.
If you don’t want to be picked up as a vagrant, make sure you keep yourself clean. Do not urinate in public areas – be very careful – latest is to charge someone with indecent exposure.
Libraries are still safe for public bathroom use, but move around – try to get library card. Become computer literate. Most librarians are class act people; will show you the basics on how to get on-line, open up email account.
Some churches are sensitive to situation; let you park – sleep in lots. One church on the East Coast lets homeless sleep in their pews at night.
Some churches have active homeless outreach offering food, clothing, and meals. There are some nonprofit groups that truly help like S.O.S., 1550 Superior Avenue, Costa Mesa, CA 92627-3653 (949) 650-0640 http://www.shareourselves.org and even have free medical clinic.
Each city is supposed to have a 211 emergency call resource center. http://www.infoline-la.org/
Applying for General Relief is a must for food stamps and remittance for shelter. Norms change. Find out what they are. Usually you can not own a home, assets, bank account, or vehicle over certain amount. Also, they may have work program that requires you to seek work daily and report back.
Orange County General Relief, 2020 West Walnut Street, Santa Ana, CA 92703-4315 (714) 834-8969
http://www.egov.ocgov.com http://www.ladpss.org/dpss/general_relief/default.cfm
http://egov.ocgov.com/ocgov/Social%20Services%20Agency/Cash%20&%20Food%20Stamps
Pray, Pray, Pray…for the most part, unfortunately and sadly, most social workers treat clients with disdain. They are disrespectful, rude, and arrogant. Keep records of name and all incidents. What people who are like that can’t stand is to be exposed; convict them by sending letters administration, political representatives and copies to the media. Try to get other signatures and letters of testimony by peers too. And, conversely, when you get that rare wonderful angel of mercy who truly is living up their job description which is social (the public is the social) and services (public taxes pay their jobs), let them, superiors, media know that too.
You need an address! If you are on the streets, see if a relative or friend will let you get and receive mail there and/or see if you can get a postal box. http://www.usps.com/receive/businesssolutions/poboxservice.htm?from=receiveyourmail&page=poboxservice
Find sober living homes to live in: most have programs that are wonderful to participate in even if you don’t have a problem. http://www.soberhousing.net/orange_county.html
Catholic Charities have outreach programs that help; as well as Catholic Worker: http://www.catholiccharitiesusa.org/NetCommunity/Page.aspx?pid=1174
http://www.occatholicworker.org 316 Cypress Avenue, Santa Ana, CA (714) 835-6304
Salvation Army has phenomenal programs: 1300 S. Lewis St., Anaheim (714) 758-0414 http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn_2.nsf
There are food banks and church/nonprofit outreach programs that give food/meals. http://egov.ocgov.com/ocgov/Emergency/Getting%20Immediate%20Assistance/Food%20Banks
Community Action Partnership, 12640 Knott St., Garden Grove, (714) 897-6670 http://www.capoc.org
Orange County Rescue Mission
The Orange County Rescue Mission serves the homeless by providing services such as residential housing for up to two years, medical and dental care, meals, ...
http://www.rescuemission.org/

Someone Care Soup Kitchen http://www.someonecareskitchen.org
720 West 19th Street, Costa Mesa - (949) 548-8861
There is an `underground network of caring/sharing’ like the slaves had…best resources are homeless at soup kitchens – rescue missions. Ask, ask, ask – find out who is helping, where best safe places to sleep are, where to eat, etc. Make copies of your entire ID info. Find safe place to hide copies and valuables – behind brick someplace – ask homeless, they’ll know.
Talk to them about Orange County Mental Health – indigents oftentimes have disabilities – eligible for Supplemental Security Income – SSI – SSDI – receive income plus medical plus other needs. There is also court affiliated program and volunteer network to do community service instead of jail time for minor infractions, sometimes addiction problems. http://www.occourts.org 341 The City Drive South, Orange (714) 935-6061. Disabilities might be related to manic/depressive mood swings, insomnia, eye deterioration vision, inability to focus, difficulty in remembering, attention deficiency, hearing loss, stress, anxiety, paranoid et al http://www.ssa.gov/disability/professionals/bluebook/AdultListings.htm

Excellent Source of Help: Legal Aid Society of Orange County, 2101 North Tustin, Santa Ana, CA 92705-7819 (714) 571-5204 http://www.legal-aid.com
God Bless All…prayers are daily for all universal kith & kin. AssociationRenaissanceCreators@yahoo.com